Sunday, July 23, 2017

How we got Speedy - Our New Puppy

I want to take a moment before I share how we got Speedy and say a really big thank you to everyone who walked us through those hard days when we said bye to Static. I remember just praying that God would give us strength and help and He really did.

Grieving is hard and I am so glad God is patient with us. I remember asking God that He promises peace that passes understanding and He said He would carry us through hard times and I asked Him where He was? And very gently the Holy Spirit prompted my heart and said, "I carried you when Kirsten brought you coffee, when JB and Gloria got you dinner, when your Dad e-mailed you, through the constant messages people have sent you and more." And then I cried. God carries us through hard times and He uses people to do that. So to everyone who sent me a message, commented on a post, or helped us through that time we really really appreciate it.

And now I will tell you how God weaved the story for us to get Speedy. I truly believe God works in our lives before we ever know we need Him working. He is good like that and this story is a testament to Him. 

We knew earlier in the year that Static was going down hill but I also knew I didn't want to get a dog until she was gone. I did want to keep my eyes out for breeders so when the time came I could get a dog from a good breeder rather than a puppy mil. This past March, Dave and I went to Florida. And I had my 'once a year McDonald's craving' and we stopped at a rest stop with a McD's. (Side note - every year after I eat McDonald's my entire gut hurts and I wonder why I do it, until the next year comes again...). Anyways, there was a nice couple there with two blue heeler pups and I pet them and chatted with the owner. I got back in the car and told Dave I wish I would have asked where they got their dogs from and he said to go back and ask, so I did. They told me they drove all the way to Oklahoma to get these dogs! Such a far drive but they also had family there. They said Oklahoma had lots of Blue Heelers because they are known for herding cattle and told me I could google and find lots of breeders.

I did google Blue Heelers and I guess I searched for 'blue heelers' in Facebook too because I found a group called 'Blue Heeler Haven' that has 18,000+ members. That FB page is a wealth of information and a great community for blue heeler lovers. They were so so supportive when I posted about Static dying too. And although I know only one person from that FB page, it was a great comfort when Static died. They are so caring. Anyways, tons of Blue Heeler stuff pops up on my FB feed and I am always showing Dave the funny stuff different dogs are doing. 

About three weeks after Static died I was on Facebook, not even scrolling in that Heeler Haven page and this picture popped up:

This puppy was for sale! She had a previous buyer that backed out so she was up for grabs again! 

I immediately turned my phone to Dave and said, "Look at this little dog! She looks so much like Static. We should check on her. What do you think?" He said she did look a lot like Static but asked me if it was too soon? And I said, of course it was too soon but that this dog was too cute to pass up! So we agreed that I would e-mail about her and when I did the owner said that the puppy loved to run and was very sweet. And I immediately was swooned and sold on this puppy! However, I didn't want to get a puppy if Dave didn't really like her too. We put a deposit on her but I told the owner that if Dave didn't like her we would not keep her and just be out the deposit money. 

Now, remember those people in Florida that I thought were crazy for driving so far for their puppies? Well, Speedy was located in St. Louis! We had to wait 10 days to meet her because of Dave's work schedule but as soon as he had a couple of days free we drove all the way up their to meet this pup. Dave also has an Aunt and Uncle that live there so I asked if we could stay with the possibility of a brand new puppy being there as well and they were nice enough to say yes. 

We drove 7 hours to meet this puppy and I kept telling Dave my puppy heart was beating super fast with excitement. =) ha! I told Dave I would not hold that puppy until he did because if I got a hold of her first I would not be able to say no. I told him if he didn't like her we would walk and that there would be another puppy for us. 

Well, we arrived and that little puppy went right up to Dave and he picked her up and she just cuddled right into her shoulder and I saw Dave's face and the expression he had immediately let me know we were going home with a puppy! And apparently puppies make me write run on sentences.....

Dave meeting Speedy for the 1st time

The breeder we got her from was super helpful and answered our many questions. She also sent me lots of videos and pictures during the 10 day waiting period and I'm so glad. Apparently, right after I had inquired about Speedy someone else did but she honored our request first. We got everything set up and left with a new puppy! It was so much fun. 

We began the hour drive to Dave's Uncle and Aunt's house and Speedy started drooling uncontrollably on my lap. It was really gross and I was really wet. Then all of the sudden she projectile vomited all over me and our car. Oh, it was gross you guys! I felt so bad for the puppy because I knew she was a nervous wreck leaving her Mom and being with strangers. We had to pull over and clean the car and I had to change my entire outfit - underwear and all. That's how much I got vomited on. The next day we were smarter and crated her and she did vomit again but by the time we realized it she had cleaned up her own mess. Also, very gross. She hasn't gotten car sick again and we take her all over so I know it was nerves.

Drooling queen! 

People keep asking me how we got her name Speedy J. Dave always said our next dog would be called Speedy because he wanted a fast running dog. I thought it was odd but told him he could name the dog whatever he wanted. J is for Speedy's older sister named, Justice. Apparently Speedy's birth Mom got sick and quit nursing the puppies. Speedy's older sister's milk came in and she took over the nursing and 'mothering' those puppies. The breeder said when people came to take the puppies the birth Mom wasn't sad but the sister dog was. They were calling Speedy 'Baby J' because she reminded them of Justice so I told her would just keep the 'J' in their honor. =) 

Dave and I are all about socializing our dog and training her from day 1. In the first few weeks of her life here is what we have made this pup do & learn: 

-And she is about 95% potty trained! 

-swam the first day we got her
-went to the farmer's market
-went to a craft show
-met other dogs
-walked on a leash
-ran on a leash
-visited people's homes
-interacted with other dogs
-attended a 4th of July event with loud fireworks (poor dog, but she did fine!)
-and much more! 

And I'm not sorry for all of the puppy pictures. If you don't like puppies then something is clearly wrong with you (unless you are allergic). 

Friday, June 30, 2017

Thoughts from Someone who Isn't a Mom Yet

Dave and I are four years into marriage and we still don't have kids. Yes, I know you know that. I'm okay with that just seems like a lot of other people aren't okay with that, and they are getting vocal about it.

I've always heard of people saying you should be aware of comments you make around people who are infertile or who have miscarriages but what about those of us who aren't moms yet because we aren't at that stage in life yet? It honestly never used to bother me but this year it has. People have said the oddest things and seem to constantly be inquiring about when we are going to start a family. That's always such a weird question to be asked. What do I say, "Um ... Let me go home and work on that one...?"

Another thing I have really really struggled with lately is hearing Mom's and what they say about being parents. It really is horrible. And for me, not being a Mom yet and hearing those things, just makes me never want to have kids. Here are a few of the things I have heard:

"The newborn stage is absolute hell!"

"I would never wish this on my worst enemy!"

"I'm always so tired! And if you aren't a Mom you just won't understand" (insert major eye roll there, I do empathize but it was your choice to have kids...just saying....)

"You and Dave have been married four years. Do you even want kids?"

"The longer you wait the more selfish you will just be!"

"It is God's plan for a married couple to have kids." (This is where I inwardly glare into your soul...)

"Oh my word! My labor and delivery was horrible" Followed by a horrible account of what happened to them during delivery and how their body has never been the same. And don't get me started on everyone who blogs details of their private parts during birth. I thought privates were just that ... a private matter. If you choose to blog your birth you definitely have the right to do that but I am just making the choice to not read those anymore because it really is terrifying to me. I've seen a live birth, and I know every birth is unique, but the one I saw was beautiful and miraculous and amazing.

And lastly, the horrible dramatic comments always ends with this: "But they really are such a joy." Which to me, is just the rudest thing ever. What if someone talked about you that way and then topped it off with what a joy you were. I'd be crying buckets!

Some of the people who have said these things to me, in the same conversation, have asked me if we plan to have kids. Yes, you read that correctly. Last weekend when that happened I just flat out said that I do want kids, but after hearing the awful things they just said I wouldn't do that to myself and would rather just travel with Dave and not have kids.

So, here is my question - why do Moms say such horrible things? I am sure parenting is hard. I am sure labor and delivery is hard. But why do we use such dramatic terms that are life draining instead of life giving? Do new Moms ever consider the effect that their words will have on other people listening? What if Dave and I did struggle with infertility? What if we did have a miscarriage? I can't even imagine the pain that I would feel hearing those things. But to be honest, it still is painful.

A lot of those things, as 'honest' as they might be, aren't from God. They are a lie from the enemy and a very discouraging word for someone like me who is considering a family. I was wrestling with things I have heard this past weekend from some Moms and the verse that God brought to my mind was Proverbs 10:27 where He says, 'The blessing of the Lord, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it." I'm not saying parenting isn't hard but a brand new miraculous life and a brand new Mom should be praised and spoken highly of. My sister speaks highly of parenting and she had major challenges at first. She speaks highly of her children and I know they are lots of work. I don't ever think I've heard her once complain. My sister-in-law labored at home for 36 hours and I have never ever heard her complain about the delivery of her son. My friend in Morocco just gave birth and she has a super challenging situation, and while difficulties are present, she chooses to focus on the positive.

So Mom's, I get you need to share your burdens. I'm all for that! I'm also all for listening to my friends and helping them carry burdens. I want to be an encouraging friend and help you parent where I can. But before you spew out lots of words, please consider them. Would your words encourage someone into motherhood or discourage them? Because truthfully, if it is as awful as you all tell me it is, I'll just keep on traveling with Dave and do missions. But deep down I know it's a beautiful thing. So when the time is right we pray God will give us a family. But until then, may I just politely say, mind your own business.

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